Dear Mr Stadlen,

No idea what you are talking about - - I never wrote any such thing.

Carolyn Kunin

Dear Anthony,
 
 In his "Speak, Nabokov", Micha�l Maar discusses this and is of the opinion that VN was intimately concerned by this theme and that he progressively lowered his guard (from "Ada" on) and finally indulged himself in TOOL.
You say that he is not honest and that his readers are entitled to expect honesty: I don't think so. Nobody could be "honest" about such a thing and we, readers are not his judges, are not in any way "entitled" to expect a full confession from him.
He conveyed through his fiction all he had to say on the subject.
Besides, there are other themes than the paedophilic one, such as "the good woman" (Disa, Clare Bishop, Zina), or "the dangerous woman" (Nina Lecerf, Margot, The queen (I forget her name) in KQK) and others, to which he frequently returns, too.
As for VN's kindness, the way I feel is that he was as kind as John Shade and as insufferable as Kinbote. this is, I think, what PF is about.
"Human life can be compared to a person dancing in a variety of forms around his own self" (Transparent Things) 
 
Carolyn,
 
I think it is difficult to find evidence of kindness because true kindness is often invisible: it is of the kind VN described in Lucette's keeping company to the Robinsons just before committing suicide, or Disa's being kind to a servant despite her discovering yet another proof of Kinbote's infidelity.
 
Laurence Hochard